The other side of not having your friends in the group…

[This is going to be a rant about working in group]

The good thing about working in group with different people is you have the chance to know new people, and the chance to experience the working ethics of them.

And…that’s also exactly the bad thing about it, especially when the person who didn’t do any of the work – because he’s been too busy working for events outside and school’s works just aren’t good enough to build up his CV – talked like he had to bear the responsibility for the whole group! 

I just hate people like that. I am not against people that prioritize working outside to studying in school – maybe they’re aiming to be the next Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates or so they think that student’s life must  – but when it affects other people (me, in specific), it’s not acceptable. The least he could do is to politely inform me and the rest of the group of this “mishap” and then tell everyone to help him. Instead, he went silent the entire time not even bother commenting on the task allocation, and then last minute popped up to appear to have “serious” discussion only to post a status on his own timeline complaining about every single person in the group.

When I discovered this, I was kind of angry and felt contemptuous at the same time: Angry, because of such a person who left such a burden to others while trying to appear so superior. Contemptuous, because that this person he may just think so big and so selfishly of himself, even after he had had experienced working with so many events outside and probably had been in the same situation yet still behaved so childishly; and again, I don’t quite regard highly those people who don’t discuss their matter directly with the group members, but posting on their timeline giving names to the members to blame them blatantly. During my time in uni, I’ve met two, both are of the same type: put working outside at the expense of their group members in school and eventually jeopardized not just themselves but dragging with them the results of others.


[Movie] It’s been nearly 10 years… the Devil wears Prada

It is such a long time! The very first time I watched it, not very much came to mind but all the glittering fashion, luxurious lifestyle and an innocent girl got pressurized by her evil boss! Now? After a sudden discussion brought up with my friend, it’s been looked in new light about making choices in life – which I didn’t quite grasp it at first – tackling obstacles and moving up and away from the status quo.


Indeed, the moment where Andrea steps into that interview with Miranda the ruthless boss, she’s made that one important choice in the movie. But for me, the MOMENT where she refuses to quit her job – after quite a bit of scare of not being able to cope with the mounting pressures – that would be the one most important choice she’s made in this entire movie, one that changes both her career and her personal life too.

And I admire Andrea’s work ethics and her attitude towards hardship too: pushing herself to strive for completion of tasks beyond the expectations of the strict Miranda; always trying very hard to fulfill the tasks given at hand – even those seemingly impossible ones, though this seems also to stress the importance of having wide networks of connection: these people are so crucial to your job at perilous time like those.

But what’s most interesting that my friend and I have quite a ‘discussion’ on would be the different perspectives that one may look at the transformation of main character from a simple girl to such sophisticated and witty – and ever busy – lady in the fashion industry. She dresses à-la-mode-ly, wears more make-up and branded shoes and bags and doesn’t have time for friends or her boyfriend. Her best friend Lily says to not be able to recognize her anymore, that Andy has kind of lost herself in the process of transformation. But we couldn’t agree much to that viewpoint; my friend and I both think that she’s actually becoming better! In a way, she seems to be the only one “moving” – all her friends including the boyfriend have been staying in just one place, and all doing just one job, perhaps their ‘dream’ jobs too. It’s just probably that she’s moving so fast that friends couldn’t catch up with her – too afraid to face the unfamiliar truth that perhaps their friend’s received better opportunity than they are. Although when Lily got angry catching Andy being quite intimate with that stranger and bursted out with anger and ranting, I quite understand that she felt quite cheated with her bestfriend cheated on bf as such but with that may also came some implying deep-down kind of jealousy as well. But then I also think that they should spend more time to understand her situation as well – she has to put up with all those pressures and hardship to do her best; she doesn’t submit to difficulties or any obstacle and always have in her optimism in all situations even though tiring as she might be – instead of just hanging around as that, especially her bf (maybe the movie just doesn’t have much screentime to do that!)

To sum up this, my friend has said quite apt: “that’s one think I think it’s personal choice (talking about Andrea’s rise in position as compared to her friends’) – to choose to remain in the same place or to push your limit”! 

A lesson to self, maybe?